DID YOU HEAR, WHAT HE IS NOT SAYING?

DID YOU HEAR, WHAT HE IS NOT SAYING?

In order to keep the peace with you and others, most people, especially in certain cultures, will never say, what they really mean.That’s why it’s up to you to select the best course of action. Often, the most obvious one, may have to be avoided. There is, for instance, a huge difference between a spontaneous and a feigned smile. How do you pick up on that? This is all part of the game of life. And that’s the reason, why genuine friends and partners, whom we expect to be sincere, are indispensible over time. Dealing with this on your own, is a huge challenge every time. Surely, you may be suffering from the same fate, not being straightforward about your thoughts and feelings towards others. Your attitude towards others may determine their attitude towards you! Perhaps knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of others (Carl Jung).

Sincerity is a rare human quality in a very imperfect world. Sincerity never triumphs completely, because society relies so much on form and convention and its participants walk the walk and talk the talk according to certain rituals, which have become commonplace in everyday life. Sincerity carries risks. Most people aren’t strong enough to be sincere.There is frankly no place anymore for expressing your true feelings in public, especially if these are in any way humiliating another person or group. ‘Why make him suffer an unnecessarily cruel fate?’ (Nelson Mandela). Sincerity often ends up being regrettable, because you wouldn’t be keen to have to look at yourself in the mirror, would you?

In the final analysis, public sincerity may hurt you the most. Are you using criticism of others to build your own ego? In order to navigate through life successfully, you typically cannot show your hand, certainly not right away. You don’t have to be deceitful nor hypocritical, but being totally open about things, better left unsaid, may make your life unneccesarily tough.

RICK SCHMULL

25th September, 2014

WESTCLIFF-On-SEA, Essex, U.K.

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CHARACTER, NOT KNOWLEDGE, IS POWER

CHARACTER, NOT KNOWLEDGE, IS POWER

True character is priceless. Your life is bound to be remarkable, if you manage to keep your good name. Not every character is the genuine article, which is dangerous for the unwary. Character is the result of years of trial and error, so don’t worry if you fear the lack of it for now. It is something formed over time, in spite of constant temptation to abandon your commitments. Character building requires patience and self-discipline and that project in itself is genius. You may live in a ‘knowledge society’, but all the data and information become meaningless, if trust is missing.

Those, who can be trusted, achieve lasting success. You will make a fortune, if you are considered dependable. You should never yield to pressure to take ‘shortcuts’, because it will be hard to make right, what is clearly wrong. True character avoids the ‘road to ruin’. Also, integrity is an essential condition to keep your whole show on the road. Otherwise, your tenacity to achieve success will be in vain and all your talents will be wasted.

The brightest and most creative minds produce masterpieces only, if they have managed to bring order to chaos, while ensuring greatness by never losing their true character. Conformity can lead to quiet desperation and therefore, total freedom of mind may well be necessary, before you become aware of the best way to become the person you could be.

RICK SCHMULL

19th September, 2014

WESTCLIFF-On-SEA, Essex, U.K.

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OPTIMISM BREEDS SUCCESS

OPTIMISM BREEDS SUCCESS

Despite all the talent and desire, failure can still occur if optimism is missing. Not blind optimism, but optimism with a keen eye for reality. That is why you will be able to bounce back after inevitable setbacks. You have to teach yourself, that defeat does not have to be permanent. Pessimism does not have to be ‘normal’, when disaster strikes. Pessimism drags you down and could cause depression. Habitual optimism should be developed over time, because you may well lack that trait. No, prescription drugs are not the answer!

Optimism makes you persevere. You will view all obstacles as challenges, which will encourage you to succeed and never ‘give up’. As you become a better dreamer and you visualize your future, you have just turned yourself into an unbeatable force! Of course, your positive attitude has to be repeated over and over again, because ‘stuff happens’, that will threaten to throw you off course all the time.

As this world offers such a privileged existence for those, who succeed, any apparent failure could be devastating. That’s why there seems to be such an epidemic of depression around. But you can actually change the way you think! There are times, that a rapid personal change is called for in order to avoid a free fall into the abyss. Fortunately, you are able to devote precious time towards self-improvement, because you’re not a robot! Your behavior ultimately depends on yourself, not on others or on ‘circumstances’. In addition, the world couldn’t care less about you and your ‘issues’, therefore you better get moving and sort yourself out. If you don’t, nobody else will.

RICK SCHMULL

17th September, 2014

WESTCLIFF-On-SEA, Essex, U.K.

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REINVENTING YOURSELF

REINVENTING YOURSELF

Reinvention should be the basis of life of anyone. If you’re not happy with the way things are, change them. Move on from everything, that you no longer are prepared to tolerate! Your past should not control your present and future. Look forward to your personal transformation. Ignite your boundless energy to start living your dream. Seize the day! Your new life cannot wait. All it takes, is to do away with your illusory limitations. All problems are temporary and should therefore not affect your nervous system permanently. Why shouldn’t everyone have a shot at being on top of the world? If so, then you will truly feel alive.

You may feel trapped in jobs or relationships, that have become dead-end. You should question your present situation at all times. If you are close to thinking: ‘Enough is Enough’, you may have done yourself a great favour. You may be on the way to living your dream. Nothing should be considered unrealistic. Why don’t you make a list of your most outrageous dreams? Guess what: you will feel compelled to do whatever it takes to fulfill your dreams! There should be no limits to your imagination, ever. Many people will try to put you down. Don’t lose your confidence, if you are at the receiving end of this common practice. Choose a thought, that honours you, who you are and you are about to get back in control of your environment. Over time, you will be treated with respect, because you will prove to the world, that you deserve recognition.

Your mind determines nearly everything and may therefore need regular ‘surgery’. Reinventing yourself is an absolute requirement to keep going. If you don’t change with the world around you, you will get left behind, big time. Don’t wait for your future to find you, because you’ll wait in vain. Moving forward, is what counts, even with baby steps. Just imagine the future, that you want and you’re feeling better already! If you’re feeling fear, that’s O.K., as long as you act anyway. That’s called COURAGE.

RICK SCHMULL

September 6th, 2014

WESTCLIFF-On-SEA, Essex, U.K.