IT COULD BE WORSE
Is that really the best you can do? So you haven't reached the absolute bottom yet? Perhaps you don't really care about the problem by saying that. This seemingly harmless phrase is unfortunately commonplace. When evil strikes, many want to cry out for answers. How can you be happy at all with such a situation? But a better way to address the problem would be to be very understanding. 'Making a big deal out of nothing' is the wrong response to a traumatic experience. It could make the suffering much worse. That would delay the recovery.
Become a listener rather than a talker. If you're not sure, what to say, be honest about that. 'I am so sorry that you have to go through this' is a way of showing you are feeling, what someone else is feeling. Offer your sincere support. Always try to do your best to make things better. Emotions, especially worried feelings, need to come out. Refuse complacency. Then you'll never say 'it could be worse' again.
If you ask 'how are you doing?' and the response is 'not too bad' or 'it could be better', try and focus on the positive. Hope for the best. Plan for the worst. Forewarned is forearmed. Count your blessings! That may all be true, but no consolation. Just try to ignore, that you or someone else came second or even last in the race of the day. Never look back. Ever.
RICK SCHMULL
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